Most of us have wondered at some point in our lives, what am I doing here? What’s the point of being? Why do we humans exist at all? And we come up with all kinds of partial answers to these questions, leaving us feeling like we’re missing something. And some of us, in our desperation, cry out to whatever might be out there – Source/Universe/God – asking, why?!
Today I want to share with you my discovery of “The Divine Why,” what it is, what this meant for me, and what it means for you.
One Purpose Under… God?
Once upon a time, the conservative Christian pastor Rick Warren wrote a book called The Purpose Driven Life. I ended up reading it for a church Lenten study and had serious problems with it.
The premise of the book was that everyone has the same purpose. Of course, Rick Warren didn’t come right out and say that at the beginning, but part way through, he lays it on you that your (and everyone else’s) purpose lies with God. Rick would say you need to come to Jesus and live your Christian life – and this is what everyone is supposed to do.
The idea of everyone having the same purpose seemed like a good one at the outset, but I found it to be contrived – how could everyone have the same purpose? That’s just impossible! There are over 7 BILLION people on the planet! We can’t all have the same purpose! What bullshit!
And then of course, I completely disagreed (and continue to disagree) with the idea that everyone needs to follow Jesus. Note: I like Jesus. I’m a fan… but there is more than one way to skin a cat, so to speak.
Recently I came to understand what Rick’s limited conservative Christian understanding stumbled upon and briefly grazed: Every single person on this planet does have a single purpose.
They have what I will call “The Divine Why.”
You may be shaking your head at this – saying, WTF Alexis?! You and I have totally different purposes! There’s no way in HELL I’d be caught dead public speaking or writing books!
You’re right. We are different people doing different things. But those different things are manifestations of the why, not the actual why.
But let’s not get ahead of ourselves – this is a difficult thing for many to grasp and it took me years before I could finally own it. So let’s make it easy by breaking it down.
How I Finally Figured “It” Out
In my post about balancing the energy of the phoenix and dragon, I mentioned one of my big lessons of being inactive was my why.
I was scrolling through Facebook when a post from a business group came up.
It wasn’t trying to be super profound. I’m sure the group owner planned it ages ago and regularly cycles it. But it hit me like a punch to the gut.
What is your why?
I sat there, dumbfounded, mouth agape.
“What is my why?” I blinked and then blurted, “I serve God.”
Whoa…whoa…WHOA!!! I shook my head. Where the fuck did that come from?!
But I knew it was true. The truth is I serve the Plan – the Universal Super Plan that is beyond all human comprehension. I’ve seen what it looks like in visions, even though in my limited humanity, I didn’t understand everything I was looking at.
Then I laughed nervously because this was the kind of thing that is scary as all fuck. This is the kind of thing that makes people look at you like you are on drugs, or maybe need to be.Hiding behind lies does no one any favors. #authenticity #beyourself Click To Tweet
But when something is true… it’s true. Hiding behind lies does no one any favors. And in a rush, I realized that every “why” until that moment had been just that – lies. They weren’t always conscious, and mostly they were lies to myself. But the damage was there – the dishonesty was there. Because I was afraid of what people would think and how people would act if I went all Blues Brothers on them…
What are you doing these days?
Oh me? I’m on a mission from God…
I realized all the things – money, family, fame, success, etc – were all superficial whys. They just weren’t enough for me specifically, but also, they were merely shadows of the true motivation behind what I do and who I am.
And in fact, all these whys are shadows of everyone’s true why – though many of us aren’t able to understand this or claim it yet (and many never will – and that’s okay.).
What’s in the Plan and the Servant’s Path
I’m not going to pretend like I know where things are headed – the Plan is vast, complex, and way bigger than anything any single human being can possibly understand with our tiny brains and limited lifespans.
What I can tell you is this – the Plan is always – always – centered on the highest good. It is always based in love.
And no matter what is going on – no matter how bad things seem – every situation is always used for the highest good. The Plan is a long game, much longer than we can imagine. Pieces fit together in ways we cannot anticipate because there simply are too many variables for a human to account for.
So what does it mean for someone to consciously serve the Universe/Source/God? What does the servant’s path entail, when serving such an unknowable thing?
There are two principles necessary to ensure the “correct” path.
First, be yourself. The Plan is predicated on the servant being exactly how they are. The more authentic you are as a servant, the better you can do your job – whatever that may be.
In my case, I was fighting my authentic self for a long time because I thought it wasn’t what I was supposed to be – that it was too counter culture to work. Now I realize this was exactly what I was meant to be doing. I am perfectly placed and Divinely intended, being as “weird” as I am.
The second principle, is a servant’s every action should be naturally grounded in love. It involves a lot of listening, and a lot of inspired and highly purposed action.Ground every action in love. #service #spirituallife #lovingkindness Click To Tweet
Since understanding that I serve the Plan, I can say when I do anything, it is incredibly purposeful. Helping someone, talking to someone, writing, posting on social media is all deeply purposeful. If I feel a nudge to do something, I follow it without question.
This is because at the beginning of the day and throughout the day, I’ve set the intention to serve the Universe and the Plan.
It involves an incredible level of faith – something I think many people struggle to approach in this day in age. Faith just isn’t as sexy as it used to be – and in a day when provable facts are eschewed, it takes on problematic undertones.
And yet… and yet…faith is essential to human experience. Especially when we’re talking about infinity.
Some Times I’ve Served the Plan in the Past
I always served the Universe or God to some capacity. It’s bred into my blood to do this (remember: ministry is the family business). So there have been times when I’ve done things that from the outside might appear crazy.
Like the time I decided at the end of my junior fall semester at college that I would study abroad in Hungary that spring semester. It shouldn’t have worked out, but somehow, miraculously, all the paperwork came through, along with everything else that was necessary to make it happen. And then I found myself in a Central European story for about four months, which led me to understand things about myself and the world that wouldn’t have been possible anywhere else.
There was the time I decided to go to India for six months – and while much of that time was painful and extremely messy, it led me through an intense path of self-discovery that caused me to study religion more, not less. As a result? I wrote my world religion curriculum, and eventually my interfaith devotional, which led me to all kinds of spiritual understandings that would have been impossible (or difficult) to reach in any other way.
Or the fact that I married my husband because of a dream. Yes. This may be one of the craziest things I’ve done – I asked for guidance before I fell asleep one night if I should marry him. This was before my now husband proposed – before our bizarre spur of the moment commitment ceremony in India (that’s another story). And that night I was given a dream, where in no uncertain terms, it was clear I should marry him.
So within the year I did. Without question.
But maybe the absolute craziest thing I’ve done was get pregnant this second time. Yes. This was also part of the Plan. My guides had been telling me I should get pregnant for at least six months, with increasing urgency. Generally speaking my guides give me good advice, when I actually follow it (there have been times when I just didn’t follow it). My husband and I had already decided we wanted to have at least two kids, the question for us was simply about timing. Finally, my guides became so persistent it was impossible to ignore. As a result, we got pregnant immediately. [As a side note, our insurance situation was made cheaper and easier because of the timing of my pregnancy.]
Practicing Your Divine Why
As you can see, I’ve done this sheer faith thing a few times. And from the outside, it might seem crazy. It might seem a little strange. Always, however, things have either immediately been taken care of, or they have created other important situations necessary to my development that were impossible to reach any other way.
And that is where you come into play.
You don’t need to agree with me about this Divine Why business. You can resist it. It’s fine for you to hate this idea. It doesn’t really matter. Everyone isn’t meant to be a conscious servant to this purpose. It’s enough for you to just be you as best as humanly possible. That serves the same purpose, because that was how you are intended.
See how this works?
It’s not magic. There’s no weirdness that needs to happen. There’s no need for you to go searching out esoteric practices or plumbing the depths of philosophy, unless that’s who you are.
The only thing that is necessary is you being you – the best you that you can be.
Even if you can’t stomach the love business I’m proposing here, which honestly, a lot of people can’t, that’s okay. It’s great if you’re ready to try for that, but it’s also fine if you’re not. It all depends on where you are in your journey. So long as you’re being you, it’s good.
I don’t know how your actions, or the actions of all sorts of people, will get used. All I know is that they will. Tiny seeds get planted every day. And every day, fruits come from seeds planted ages ago.
This is how God/Universe/Source works.
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