Self-care for Resilience When Life Feels ShittySometimes resilience feels out of reach. Life might weigh you down and in those times, it can feel impossible to get up and keep going. In this post I share real talk about moments of overwhelm and how to move through it with grace and ease (plus a special opportunity for even MORE tactics and strategies I use year long!)!

So I’m going to get real for a minute.

For the last three days I’ve been wrestling with my cat to give her medicine at least 2 times daily(ideally 4 times, but there’s only so much cat wrangling a person can do and not get totally shredded!).

South of us is a mammoth of a fire (the Thomas Fire) which is steadily burning my direction as I type this.

My son’s school is closed for the week because of poor air quality (it’s like a level 11 over here!).

I’ve got a doctor’s appointment I’m supposed to make this Saturday, which looks like it’s still a go, but honestly I’ve got mixed feelings about braving Mordor.

Mama said there’d be days like this?

Well, maybe not like this.

In the background is the current political and social climate which comes through every time I turn on social media or happen across the news – which I’ve been watching a little bit because of the fire.

So… things are not great. I mean, they’re not what I would call ideal by any stretch.

But the thing is, life continues. Stuff happens and life continues. I can’t let this stuff consume me or I’d stop. And as my husband says, “I’ll never quit!”

How do you keep going?

When there are days like this, it’s good to have tactics and strategies to rely on for greater resilience. Here are some of mine:

  • Break out the task list. Have it open next to you so you can check things off as you go.
  • Rest when you need to – sometimes all the things ARE overwhelming and that is a sign you need a break. It’s okay to take one.
  • Get outside (if it’s safe to do so!). Fresh air always feels good. Then you can get back to whatever it is you need to do.
  • Reward yourself – after you finish your tasks, do something fun or relaxing that makes you feel really good! Because you deserve it!
  • Find an accountability partner (or someone to help you manage things). You can use one another to help both of you keep pushing through when things get tough.
  • Distract yourself – find something that will distract you from all the other things going on. When you’re sufficiently distracted, you’ll feel better and will be able to tackle whatever needs tackling.
  • Ground and center – if you’re like me, and more sensitive or intuitive, you may need to cut cords, connect to the Earth, and get centered in yourself every so often to help keep you in a good place. Do this as much as necessary!

When it’s just too much

It’s okay if you get tired. It’s okay if it’s just too much. Be gentle with yourself. Take things easy and do what you need to do for yourself.

These kinds of things don’t just disappear over night and so you need to pay attention to yourself and do what you feel you need to in order to navigate through things.

Trust in your own ability to power through.

When it gets super tough, take a minute to breathe and remind yourself of all the times you’ve gone through things before, because the reality is, you’ve gone through moments like this, and you will do it again.

And above all…

This too shall pass.

It’s all temporary anyway.

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When you want a little more help staying on track…

There is one thing you can do on a regular basis that can ground you and keep you focused on taking care of yourself. It’s something that has added normalcy despite all kinds of tricky situations AND has given me motivation to keep going in whatever ways I can and want.

That is my bullet journal.

I’ve used this practice to help me transform all kinds of areas in my life as well as track various practices to maintain a certain level of development and self-care.

It’s been so successful, I’ve had people ask me how I do it.

SO… I’m going to be offering an exclusive 2 hour workshop all about bullet journaling and how it can be used to improve your self-care routine as well as foster spiritual development. I will give you ALL the nuts and bolts for this along with lifetime access to the content (and recommendations for supplies!).

We’ll talk about:

  • What a bullet journal is
  • How to get started using your bullet journal
  • How to make the most of your bullet journal practice
  • Ways to use bullet journaling for improved self-care
  • PLUS how to use bullet journaling to further your spiritual growth!

This will run on December 28th at 10 AM Pacific. To secure your spot, simply go to this link and message me to be added to the private group! This is a total steal for all the info you will get so don’t miss it!

 

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Alexis Donkin

Alexis Donkin is a life coach and intuitive helping creatives build lives based in unconditional love. She is the creator of The Compassion Letter weekly newsletter, and the online course, The Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unloveable, as well as host of the Intentional Writer Interview Series and author of over 17 books.

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2 thoughts on “Self-care for Resilience When Life Feels Shitty

  • December 11, 2017 at 10:46 pm
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    I do hope that you and your family are safe and all the people and animals who are affected by this horrible fire.

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    • December 14, 2017 at 12:57 pm
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      We are! Thank you so much for your kind thoughts! The winds died down and containment is up but that may change over the weekend (the winds are supposed to pick up again) so we’ll see what happens! Crossing our fingers!

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