You need a holiday self-care plan. The holiday season is tough. It’s tough because holidays bring out ALL the things.
And I mean… ALL. THE. THINGS.
If you’ve lost someone… that comes up because they’re not there.
When you’ve got dysfunctional family dynamics, that comes up because you’re with your family (or you’re not).
If you’re suffering with any kind of mental illness or addiction, the loneliness and isolation that engendered comes up because, no matter where you are (with family or not) you feel that wall between you.
All the things that happened during the year get brought up during the holidays – if someone got divorced or married, miscarried or had a baby, bought or lost a house – all the tension around these big changes comes up during the holidays.
So what’s a spiritual and intentional person to do?
Below I’m going to share a few tips and tricks to get through with a holiday self-care plan, especially as a person with any kind of sensitivities or desire to stay positive.ALL the things come up during the holidays. That's why you need a plan! #spiritualliving #selfcare Click To Tweet
Three Pieces of Your Holiday Self-Care Plan
No matter what your holiday situation, there’s a before, during, and after. You need practices and elements that address your experience for ALL THREE of these parts.
If you don’t, your self-care plan won’t be complete and you may end up doing extra clean-up later (I’m speaking from experience!).
SO it’s important to be sure you’re hitting all your bases. That means you need to:
- nurture or nourish yourself beforehand so you are in TOP form when you get to whatever holiday events,
- mitigate or manage during holidays so you can keep any negative impacts at a minimum,
- and heal or resolve anything that did occur despite your best efforts (because let’s be honest – there are things outside of our control! We need this as part of our plan!).
Below I address each of the above pieces of a holiday self-care plan and give you different practices I have used personally as well as suggested to clients.
Nurture with Your Holiday Self-Care Plan
Before, during, and after all the holidays (so this week, obviously, if you’re in the US!) be sure to get some YOU time. This is basic self-care, and especially if you’ve been in a tough situation, spend some time loving yourself.
The best things to get yourself back to equilibrium are:
- Time in nature – because the earth is feminine and takes even icky stuff and transforms it into beauty. You’ll feel better after even just 15 minutes in a forest or a field!
- Dancing – this is scientific folks! Dancing boosts your serotonin levels and therefore can boost your mood. I feel better after dancing for even just one song, but if you can do it for 15 minutes or more, you’ll get all kinds of positive effects!
- Meditate – I know I talk about this all the time, but really, meditation can help you get back to a good place no matter what. Do a simple breathing meditation (get still and focus on your breath for just a minute or two, or longer if you have more time).
Mitigate and Manage During Holiday Events
These are some strategies I use to mitigate time with people who are draining, or difficult:
- Cord-cutting – I’ve talked about this tactic before and using it in all kinds of situations. I find this is a really helpful technique. If you’re feeling drained by anyone around you, do this. Do it as often as needed!
- Grounding – This is another technique I use and is a little more woo-woo. It is, however, incredibly powerful. You can read more about it here.
- Reframing – this is the least spiritual of the techniques for mitigating your experience and it is also incredibly effective. If something isn’t going well, just reframe it to focus on the positive of the situation. Example: “I don’t like cleaning up the crumbs under my kid’s chair” changes to “I like cleaning up the crumbs under my kid’s chair because it means he had a good nutritious meal and I like that his belly is full.”
Healing with Your Holiday Self-Care Plan
Sometimes, even if you’ve done everything you could to address the difficulty of your holidays, someone does something that triggers all your old thought or feeling patterns and you end up in a blubbery mess in a bathroom.
I know. I have TOTALLY been there.No one wants to be a blubbery mess in the bathroom! #holidays #selfcare #realtalk Click To Tweet
This is when you MOST need your holiday self-care plan in place!
Some of the practices above will work to heal through things, and others will be less effective.
Talking it out and or journaling can also help you navigate your feelings and experience with the holiday. Get someone you trust (a partner or best friend) and talk through your experience. Grab your journal and just write whatever comes into your head until you have processed ALL THE THINGS.
After you do that, you may find you are ready to let go of the experience through forgiveness. Forgiveness is AMAZING at helping you heal – not only of the other person, but MORE importantly, of yourself. Check out some techniques to forgive here.
Different techniques and practices will work better for different people. The practices in this post are all ones I’ve suggested to clients which helped them find relief (and I have ALSO used them to great effect personally!).
There’s no reason you need to dread the holidays or carry holiday hurt around afterwards. Be sure to notice how you’re feeling and take care of yourself as you move through the season.
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