I recently went into an electronics store.
First, I was overwhelmed by the screens – the constant electric movement along the horizon. Then, I felt the disconnection. It came on gradually as I scanned the quadcopter display.
I thought, “We live in the future.”
Then I thought about the kinds of futures that quadcopters belong in… and I shivered.
When I’m out and about, I don’t extend my spiritual feelers much. It would be too overwhelming because there are so many people and things falling on top of one another. I’d go into empath shock. But something in me wondered about that store – about all the electronics.
So I extended my senses, and frowned.
The place felt eerily sterile – not because of the people, but because of the disconnection it had to the earth. It felt like sickness. My stomach actually roiled.
I wanted to leave. I needed to leave.
Spirit of the Intentional Home
I share the above story because while everyone in that store did not sense the depth of disconnection I did, they were affected. What is in our environment impacts our hearts, minds, and bodies (for thoughts about the body specifically, see my post here).
If you seek to live in a space that is focused on love, there are some different things you can do to make sure your home reflects your intentions.
Disclosure: This post does contain Amazon affiliate links. When you make a purchase through them, I get a small commission for to the referral at no extra cost to you AND you get something to make your home more intentional! It’s a win-win!
Clear Your Space
Spend time clearing the space in your house. The process should resonate with you. If you are moving to a new home, you still want to go through this process (although it may be a little different without all your stuff!).
- Declutter – I’ve blogged about how to do that in this post here, but this is the first step to setting up an intentional home. If you’re just moving in, skip to step two!
- Clean – dust, vacuum, mop, wash, and scrub. Everything should be physically clean.
- Clear the energy – use an element that feels good to you (some options are pure water, essential oils, salt, sage smoke, a lit candle, or visualized light) spreading it along the perimeter of each room in a clockwise motion.
While the above steps will help to clear your space, and steps 1 and 2 are necessary, you don’t have to “clear the energy” of a room like the above. A simple prayer or blessing may work too. Whatever resonates with you and fills the space with good feelings works! If you want more about “spiritual decluttering” check out this post here.
Setting Each Room’s Purpose
Now that you have the space clean in every way, it’s time to affirm its purpose. Each room in your home should reflect the purpose of that room. If a space has a confused purpose, it will impact how you feel whenever you are in that room. It may make you feel cluttered, confused, or drain your energy.
Ever go into a space that felt, well, bleh? Did it feel muddled in some way? Yeah.
Now this doesn’t mean a small house with rooms that serve multiple purposes are bad – that’s not it at all! A multi-purpose room is fine as long as that is clear.
The purpose or purposes need to be clear.
How do you make the purpose clear? By choosing furniture and layouts that communicate that purpose. In a bedroom, you have a bed. A bedroom without a place to sleep would be…well…weird. A dining room without a place to sit and eat would feel awful.
You can make sure your furniture reflects the purpose of each room by asking yourself the following:
- What is the purpose of this room?
- Does the layout serve this purpose?
- Does the furniture serve this purpose?
If you answer “no” to 2 or 3, things need to change. Adjust as needed!
Do yourself a favor and be gentle with yourself as you go through this process. Don’t feel like you have to go out and replace all your furniture. It’s okay to get rid of one piece at a time, or to alter a piece to make it feel better in a space.
Honor Your Preferences and Principles with Decor
This is the FUN part – decorating. Just typing that puts a smile on my face because this is where you get to put all the feel good stuff together.
Now, let’s get a few important things out of the way before we get started:
- Decorating is not an excuse to junk up your house. Do not undo all the good work you did decluttering.
- Don’t replace something with an “eco” or “fair-trade” version JUST because you want the “eco” or “fair-trade” version. That is not loving. Replace things only as they are worn out!
- When you buy new, try to buy things that are environmentally and social conscious (fair labor treatment, ethically sourced, etc).
- When possible, buy local.
There are a few decorating choices that make a space feel really good:
Let’s unpack why these feel awesome and share some easy ways to use them.
You Need Plants In Your House
You need plants in your house. I can’t stress this enough. Plants FEEL sooooo good! They do magic in your space! It isn’t just because of their scents or how they clean the air. They feel good because they are living beings with spirit (yes – living beings don’t have to move to have spirit!) and we are connected to them. We require plants. They don’t need us, but we require them to live. All life on our planet needs plants. By having them in our space and caring for them, it helps us reconnect with the ecology of our planet.
Feeling nervous about having a plant? Do not get plastic plants. Please. Spare us – they do not have the benefits of real plants, so it’s almost pointless (in addition to using more plastic). Instead, go to the nursery or the local hardware store and ASK for a low maintenance plant. Usually succulents fall into this category (as well as some herbs). Then read the care instructions. Then follow the instructions.
Some plants I really like are:
- Snake plants – they clean your air and when pot-bound, they blossom with a lovely scent!
- Aloe vera – for a variety of medicinal reasons as well as cleaning your air!
- Basil – because I just really love eating basil (and it smells nice!).
- Mint – I love eating fresh mint plus the shape of the leaves and color is just nice (note: be careful to keep this in a pot away from other plants because it will spread!)!
- Orchids – because these are just SO BEAUTIFUL! [Note: Some orchids are low maintenance while others are HIGH maintenance. Purchase under advisement!]
Put A Little Color On It
What’s the big deal about color? Color impacts your mood. Realtors advise homeowners to paint their houses a slightly yellow color to make people feel good in a house (and therefore more likely to buy it). Blue is good for a bedroom (calming) whereas gray is good for an office (stimulates thinking).
Just think about how colors make you feel when you’re wearing them. Black may make you feel sexy or dangerous. Yellow might make you feel happy, whereas muted tones might make you feel dull. The same goes for the colors in your home.
Color is easy to add to any space and makes it feel AMAZING. The key is to keep the color in balance with the rest of the space. Too much of one or too many colors can be overwhelming. Not enough color and a space feels sterile. What is too much or not enough? That depends on you and how it makes you feel (it is, after all, your space!).
I’m at a slight advantage in color because I’m an artist. This means I have an art collection to choose from for decorating my house. There is no lack of paintings, drawings, and sculptures. And if I don’t have something, usually, I just make it (because why buy something new when I can make it using all my cool art supplies?!). However, I know this is not a common thing for people, so I’ll share a few tips.
Use colors that make you feel good and reflect the environment you live in. We lived in the desert for a few years, and the house interior was primarily desert tones. To counter this, I painted several large canvases in blues and purples. It was the perfect balance!
Live in snow country? Think rich greens and reds – not because of Christmas, but because it will bring back that sense of summer and life!
Some quick and easy ways to bring color into your space are:
- throw blankets
- organizing containers (pen cups, magazine baskets, you name it!)
- dried or live flowers (see plants above!)
Let Your Light Shine!
I’m sitting in a house where the windows nearly span from the floor to the vaulted ceiling. I consider myself lucky in this. There are a lot of carbon-copy style houses that feel like caves with low ceilings and tiny windows. Ugh!
When we lived in the desert, we had a house kind of like that, but it did not feel like a dank cave. This was because we had two skylights, and frankly, the low ceilings and tile floors contrasted nicely against the 115° F heat outside.
Light, like everything else, is a matter of preference. That said, we are meant to be outside and not getting enough light does impact our moods (Seasonal Affective Disorder anyone?). This is why it is important to think about how the light feels in your home and more specifically, in each room.
Along with the purpose of your spaces, you want the light the enhance the purpose. A harsh light may work well in an office or work area, but a soft light is a better plan for your bedroom. If you read or journal before bed, you will want a nightstand lamp or other directional bedside lamp.
Some easy ways to add “ambiance” or alter the light to better reflect the purpose of rooms are:
- Salt lights – I’m not sure if science backs up the claims, but I don’t care. The soft pink glow feels so good! Definitely a good idea to make a space feel cozy and soothing!
- Candles – used sparingly and with natural or NO fragrance, these can be a lovely way to enhance a space (think: romance, self-care, or just because!).
- Fairy lights (also called Christmas lights) – are a fun, whimsical light source that conjures the magic of childhood holidays.
- Open the blinds and if possible, the doors. This is an easy way to let more natural light into your home and it feels awesome!
From Here to Intentional Home
You don’t need to paint your walls and throw out all your furniture to create an intentional living space. A few easy tweaks here and there can make a big difference in how your space feels. When it feels good, that positively impacts how you feel about your life, increases your sense of worth, and deepens your purpose. Those good feelings go on to impact the world around you making it easier for you to be loving toward others.
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